Thursday, April 16, 2009

Who should call first?

The online pick-up can be just as hard, if not harder, then the conventional bar scene. With initial communication all being done via email, very few clues are received as to how sincere the 'let's grab a drink’ offer really is. Lately, I have received several emails that have ended with, "give me a call sometime, here's my number." Call me an an old-fashion online-dater but the why is the phrase, "I'd like to give you call sometime, what is your number” so foreign these days?

*Note to any future 'matches' that may be reading this: The line, "Would like to meet for a drink?” will always make the best impression and will send my heart aflutter every time.

Anywhoo-

Regardless of who dials first, 9 out of 10 times the first attempt at a phone conversation is going to go something like this:

1. Person A: Calls
2. Person B: Hits ‘ignore,’ sends call to voicemail
3. Person A: Leaves a rambling message, identifying name and the website you have met through.
4. Person B: Listens to the message. Then decides on an appropriate time to wait before calling back because 1) they want to appear too busy living an exciting life to answer a random phone call or 2) Perhaps it's a Sunday night and they received the call while watching a tear-jerking Lifetime Original Movie and they need a few moments to pull themselves together – Damn you Nora Roberts!
5. Person B: Calls back
6. Person A: Can be too-cool for school and ignore the call which refers you back to step 2, or answers the phone and an awkward first conversation begins.

The casualness of the ‘here’s my number’ phrase makes me question, if you meet online does it matter anymore who calls first?

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